I am going to talk about something slightly controversial today. The Mommy Wars.
It's all over the news and the radio, and it's an old topic. It's mostly about the choices women make when it comes to our lives. Be it personal, professional etc. Some people like to pit SAHM (Stay at Home Mom's) vs Working Moms. There are many different names for them both.
Here are my brief thoughts on this. One, our mothers (and their mothers and so on) made the "feminist" choices and advances they did so that we would have a CHOICE. Not so that we could try to "have it all."
And I also think that every woman's definition of "having it all" is a different one. For some that means balancing a career and raising children, for others it means not having children at all and for others it might be staying home to raise the children.
(just a quick note, as I meet new mama's I find that most of them don't "stay home" anyway...they are always out and about!)
So anyway...I read this article this morning:
Go ahead, give it a quick read and come back.
Okay, so I read that article this morning and it reminded me of something that someone had told me once. About how when we have many choices, it's hard to decide. But if we are given just a few things to choose from it's easy. For example, if you picture yourself at the grocery store and you are going to buy some jam and you have 15 different flavors to choose from...which one will you pick? How long will it take you to decide? Now picture you only have two choices. Grape or Strawberry. You will probably make your decision much quicker and be pretty happy with that decision. But when we have many choices we might second guess our decision.
This is exactly what I have been going through the past year. I have SO many choices. And I'm afraid to make the "wrong" choice. I can't decide what to do. The person who could have made this decision a year and half ago doesn't exist anymore. My life is now completely different. I'm not the same anymore.
To those of you who have made your choices...are you happy and confident you made the right choice? To those women who are not mama's...if you become one, do you think you know what decision you would make?
Is it okay for me to change my mind a hundred times about what I am going to do with my life and what kind of Mom I am going to be? Which team am I on for the Mommy Wars?
And is it taking our society backwards if I agree with the writer of that article and say it would be a lot easier if I didn't have a choice? How about I get just two choices? Because I can easily choose between Grape and Strawberry.
I would pick Strawberry of course. :)