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Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Great Advice

Today I read an article about the oldest living person.

http://gma.yahoo.com/blogs/abc-blogs/worlds-oldest-person-besse-cooper-turns-116-154351161--abc-news-topstories.html

Recently it was her birthday, she turned 116!

I'm not sure I want to live to 116 (I guess if I can still dance and walk around and I'm not too crazy...)


Anyway.

I thought she had some great advice.  The secret to her long life?

"I mind my own business," she told the Guinness World Records. "And I don't eat junk food."

Now that is great advice.  :)

Friday, August 24, 2012

Having It All, Part 3?

Some thoughts on the article I have been reading...I will be discussing this over the next few days. This topic has been heavy on my mind for the past, oh 17 months or so. ;) I think a part of this depressed feeling I have is that I am no longer meeting the expectations I set out for myself as a child.

And well, back then I was being groomed to compete in a "man's" world. Let's make it a human being's world.

I would like to point out the "gender" problem here in our society. Where we scream equal rights for everyone, and women are treated equally, but not all people are treated equally.  And anyone who may act more "traditional feminine" vs "traditional male" is NOT treated equally.  Let's stop using male and female, let's try another term, maybe Ying and Yang?

Written by Anne-Marie Slaughter:
If women are ever to achieve real equality as leaders, then we have to stop accepting male behavior and male choices as the default and the ideal. We must insist on changing social policies and bending career tracks to accommodate our choices, too. We have the power to do it if we decide to, and we have many men standing beside us.

We’ll create a better society in the process, for all women. We may need to put a woman in the White House before we are able to change the conditions of the women working at Walmart. But when we do, we will stop talking about whether women can have it all. We will properly focus on how we can help all Americans have healthy, happy, productive lives, valuing the people they love as much as the success they seek.
And I would like to highlight:
"We will properly focus on how we can help all Americans have healthy, happy, productive lives, valuing the people they love as much as the success they seek."


Here is a link to the full article:
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/1/

More thoughts coming soon....feel free to chime in!

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Having It All, Part 2.

I'm in the middle of reading this VERY interesting article that has to do with my post earlier this week. It's a very long read, but I think it's worth it. I'll discuss some points I really liked once I finish.

I'm so busy right now that I don't have time to sit down and read it all at once.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/

(Seriously, it's six pages, but very well written with some very good points, I'm on page 4.)

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Having It All.

Have you ever wondered about the phrase "Having it all."?

I know I have.  Recently I have started looking around me and wondering, why do I want it all?
Having it all is a lot of hard work!

So I have begun to think that I need to redefine "Having it all".  Or at least I need to redefine what that means to me. My "all" may not be the same as your "all".

The problem is that I have had that same "all" definition my whole life.  I can't just flip a switch and change my way of thinking.

I'm not a quitter, I'm a go-getter. And I like to rise up to challenges.
(really, please don't tell me I can't do something....because then I go all crazy and think I have to do it just to prove to you that I can do anything.)

Recently I decided I was going to "give up" something. But really what I was doing was picking something else. It will mean one less thing for me to do or worry about.

Why do I feel the need to do a million things anyway?

I once had a friend in high school who got C's and D's on his report card, and I knew he could do better. I asked him about it once and he said "why should I work hard all the time? I can get C's and D's without trying too hard and every once in a while I get an A or B and everyone rewards me for it."

At the time I thought he was just settling for being mediocre.

But as I get older, I wonder....how happy is he with life?  He seemed very happy back then.
I stress about life WAY too much.

Sometimes I just need to let it all go, stop working so hard, and not worry so much.
And maybe just do a little less.

So what is all this rambling about?  I decided to stop doing one blog. I wasn't the perfect fit for it and I wouldn't be the perfect fit for it unless I could dedicate more time and energy into it. And well, I have other things I need to do first. Like my real job. And taking care of my family.

It was really tough to "let go" and to admit that I couldn't do it.
And once I stop thinking about it, maybe I can relax and enjoy myself a little bit.

After all, what is the purpose of life if we aren't happy?
Stop stressing Dani!

And for once, instead of Dani Do It, maybe I should be Dani Don't Bother.  Go have a drink, sit in the sun and just watch time pass you by.  Sigh.

Monday, August 20, 2012

Soda...

So I know that I really shouldn't be drinking soda. Especially if I am trying to lose weight.

And I try not to drink diet soda because I don't like eating (or drinking) aspartame.

But this weekend I had a headache and kinda wanted something bubbly. I was visiting my parent's house and I looked in their fridge.

They had lots of diet soda and one or two bottles of root beer and some orange soda.

I really don't like orange soda and I know my dad loves that kind of root beer. So I left those alone. I found one half of a regular soda. That obviously belonged to someone else.

I decided that the caffeine and cola flavor I wanted would be worth it enough to put up with the chemicals of diet soda. I picked up a can, was just about to open it, when I noticed two words:

"Caffeine Free"

What?!  Why?!

What is the point of a soda if there is no sugar and no caffeine?!?!  It's just a chemical, fake cola, flavored seltzer water at that point.

With a sigh I put it back.

Seriously, what is the point of Diet, Caffeine Free Soda?

Friday, August 17, 2012

Another article share...

Another article from Yahoo that I am sharing today.

This one is on how to have a good work day. I especially liked point number 2.

http://smallbusiness.yahoo.com/advisor/10-tricks-for-a-fabulous-workday.html

The reason I like number 2 is because until recently...I never really knew what my life goals were. I had a really hard time feeling satisfied and happy with my work. I didn't feel like I had a purpose, I felt unfulfilled.

This feeling got even worse after having a baby.

And it took me a while to figure it out....but I wasn't finding happiness and fulfillment at work.

So my deeper reason that I go to work?  It's to support my family.
More on this subject next week.  I have a lot to say about it. :)

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Eeeep! Fire Safety!

Make sure you clean out your junk drawers...I know mine needs an overhaul!

Read this article for some tips about how to store possibly flammable or fire starting items:
http://shine.yahoo.com/at-home/junk-drawer-could-set-house-fire-203200535.html

My blogs have been quiet lately.  I haven't been inspired, or I have been busy. I feel like it must be the summer, we get so busy!

I had plans for this summer, but they don't seem to be panning out...oh well. There's always next year right?  My new job is in a school district and the school year is fast approaching...which makes me think of all the wonderful things about Fall that I love...

Is it too early to think about Fall?

Thursday, August 09, 2012

Don't be sad...

Yesterday I went to the grocery store with Zoe. She loves sitting in the cart and looking at all the food and people as we walk around. As we are walking down an aisle, a man approaches us and says to Zoe:

"Don't be sad..."

(and I smile because she always looks sad...that's just her expression...but the smile gets frozen on my face...)

And he continues:

"...someday your Mama will be in a nursing home and won't be able to do her own hair and you can give her the same stupid hairstyle."

And he walks away.

And I stood there with a stupid grin on my face. Frozen. In shock.

He just said what?!?!

I was quite offended, because I didn't think her hair looked all that stupid. A little funny maybe, but not stupid. I came home and told the story to Anthony....he laughed.  I told the story to my parents. They also laughed.

I can see the humor now...but at the time I wanted to yell after the guy "Hey you jerk! Keep away from my kid!"

And here she is...maybe I should try pigtails?


Notice the "I'M THE FAVORITE" t-shirt?  I find it hilarious. Especially because she is the only.
Well, if you don't count Oscar. And after his stunt earlier this week, I might not! :)

Tuesday, August 07, 2012

Dog Days

The official definition for the phrase "Dog Days of Summer" are the hottest days of summer. For those of us in the northern hemisphere, this means July and August. Once upon a time, Sirius, the dog star rose very close to the sun just before the sunrise.
In ancient times, humans thought that the dog star, Sirius, was angry and that's why it was so hot.

So they did the only logical thing they could think of, they sacrificed a dog.  Poor things. :(
It didn't stop the weather from being so hot!

I'm talking about dog days for a different reason. My dog loves the summertime. We take him hiking and camping, and we take him up to Vermont. I refer to Vermont as "Doggy Disney World" because most of the dogs (yes, almost every house on my parents private dirt road has one!) get to run off leash and jump in the lake and sniff in the woods and in general have a great doggy time.

Unfortunately this year, we just haven't been up to Vermont as much as I thought we would.
But fortunately for Oscar, my parents took him (and Zoe) for the past five days while Anthony and I had a long weekend away in Bar Harbor. (more on our trip later)

I know that my daughter had a great time, my mom shared plenty of videos and pictures showing how much fun everyone had. And I know that Oscar had a GREAT time. Because when my parents went to leave my house, he jumped in the car to go with them.

Three times.

He was completely ready to ditch myself and Anthony to go with them.
I ended up having to hold him so he wouldn't sneak back into the car.

My feelings are a little hurt, but I can't really blame him. Not only is it a lot of fun for a dog where my parents live, they also have a dog and the two of them run around together. And according to my parents, they apparently ran around misbehaving like teenagers this weekend. :)

Maybe I need to show him some more love and attention.
Or maybe I just need to bring him back to "Doggy Disney World" more often.