Do I want to see my daughter try her hardest at everything? Of course I do.
But I also want her to be relaxed, happy, carefree.
And most important, I want her to be a good person who is kind to others.
I don't talk about work too often, but a few weeks ago I was heartbroken to hear a sixth grader say to his teacher:
"Is there any extra credit work I can do? Can I do it over again? I just have to get a better grade. My father is going to be so mad at me, I can't take this home."The worst part? Was hearing the real fear in his voice.
This kid is TWELVE years old (maybe 11 or 13). He shouldn't be this stressed out.
I immediately wondered what his blood pressure was like.
Funny, when I was that age, I became uninterested in school work and almost didn't complete an assignment. I'm not really sure where my mind was to be honest...hormones maybe?
Instead of doing homework or cleaning my room I could be found reading a book.
Reading a book? Probably not the worst of problems for a parent...but I know my parents were frustrated. Not because I wasn't bringing home A's, but because I wasn't trying...AT ALL.
They knew I wasn't doing my best. And I'm sure I'll feel the same way about my daughter.
But if she is doing her best and working hard, I'll be happy with the C's. Your grades in school don't necessarily reflect your success in life. But how you conduct yourself and how you apply yourself...that's different.
And that poor kid I heard? I could tell by the tone of his voice that he was working hard.
I just hope his parents were understanding. He seemed like a good kid.
I feel like today's kids are being dealt with in two ways. One, everyone is special and everyone wins and everyone gets a trophy. And two, get A's or you are worthless.
I'm sure we can find a happy medium yes?